(This post was discovered upon my waking this morning. I have made some slight alterations and additions - but you will be reading it mostly in its booze-fueled glory. I am actually rather impressed with my articulation. Go me!)
I'm not going to lie to you Internet, it is early in the morning and I'm drinking a big cup of Bailey's. But this topic of younger men is absolutely begging to be discussed. Hell, I've been discussing it with fellow single ladies all week.
It all began during a conversation with the lovely Lulu Lantanza, in which I made the comment/realisation that the only fellas that seem to be willing to have a crack at me these days are under 25. Not that I am complaining, there is a wonderful enthusiasm to them that simply cannot be ignored. Interestingly, Lulu has had similar experiences with younger men. Now, I am not going to beat around the bush. Lulu and I are incredibly fabulous, independent single ladies. We like being single but we feel the need for 'filler men'. You know, the ones that hang around on Sunday mornings and shag you rotten.
It would seem that our efforts to find men our age or older have been largely disappointed. And when discussing why with various single ladies in my life, we have come up with the following:
- Men our age (mid to late twenties) are generally in relationships.
- Single men older than us have been burned in past relationships, and are unwilling or unable to 'put themselves out there'.
- When men our age become single, all of their friends are still in relationships, and they keep hanging around them waiting to be introduced to 'desperate' single friends (of which there are very few because people in relationships generally bore the hell out of us singletons).
- Younger men are enthusiastic, appreciate the older woman, and have yet to be broken and made cynical and wary.
I did a stocktake of all the men I have crushed or have had tension/encounters with over the last 5 years, and was mildly disturbed to find that around 50% of them were at least three years younger than me. I cannot help but wonder if this is a reflection of my own tastes, or a reflection of men's age and their capacity to participate in the adventure that is 'Anne'.
When indulging in some boozy conversation with a man-friend recently, I asked the question - "am I too overwhelming for men?" The answer - "sometimes, but that's a part of your personality and you should not have to sacrifice that" (I cannot promise that quote is exact, but it is roughly right). This was another issue I discussed with Lulu, should we be dumbing it down?
We both know the answer to that is NO!! And we hate ourselves for even considering it. But our experience indicates that we should be doing that for the boys our age. Which is total bollocks.
So what is the answer? I am not sure. But as one of my single lady work mates said earlier in the week - "all young men need an older woman". If this is true then really we're just doing them a favour, right??
On a semi-related note, here is a wonderful clip from a wonderful show that I discovered earlier in the week. A glimpse into our futures perhaps?
